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03/12/2013

'Chivalry Is Not Dead' – Survey

It has often been said that chivalry is dead, but a new survey has suggested that might not be the case.

According to research, men are said to be worried about offending women and being accused of being patronising, that they are more reluctant to offer females their seats on public transport or hold open doors.

Only 15% of men said they regularly offer their seat to a woman on a train or a bus, while more than a third admitted they never help a mother who is struggling with a heavy pram.

The study, which was commissioned by AXA and involved more than 5,000 people, also discovered that 18% regularly pull out a chair for a woman to sit down, while more than three-quarters don't help to carry a heavy bag or suitcase.

Interestingly, men don't appear to welcome these chivalrous acts themselves, as just 60% of men would welcome a door being held open for them by a member of the opposite sex. A further 32% would feel positively about a seat being offered to them on a train or bus, with 21% stating they would be embarrassed.

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And despite male perceptions that women may feel "insulted" or "patronised" to be offered a seat, in reality just one in 25 women feels embarrassment, while only 7% view chivalrous acts as patronising.

Commenting on the findings, psychologist and relationship expert Donna Dawson said: "There seems to be a 'disconnect' between what women appreciate in terms of little chivalric gestures from men, and how men think women want to be treated.

"This report makes it clear that it is still little things that mean a lot to many women but men seem confused by the modern 'women want to be treated as equal to men' message.

"This message was primarily meant for the workplace and was never meant to replace good manners.

"Men will always be the stronger sex, physically, and so it is only natural for men to want to show consideration for women when it comes to dealing with doors, heavy luggage or by offering a seat on public transport.

"So if men are worried about the response they will get, women should respond to any little chivalric gesture that means a lot to them with obvious appreciation, so that men will feel encouraged to repeat such actions to more women in the future."

Chris Jones, AXA Head of Brand, added:"We all know that little things do make a difference but it is quite surprising to see how important some of the rather old-fashioned gestures still are."

(JP/IT)

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"It has often been said that chivalry is dead, but a new survey has suggested that might not be the case."